Everything doesn’t revolve around me.
Life feels lighter after I let that ego go.
Ego (via Google): A person’s self-importance or self esteem
I was listening to a random podcast the other day and the gentleman mentioned that children are ego maniacs.
He didn’t mean it in a bad way.
Only to represent his ideology that limited beliefs are often formed at a young age because children learn by internalizing.
Thus, when a child feels a negative vibe coming from his parents; that child (in theory) believes he is the cause of the negative emotion.
For, everything is about that child.
Children are not emotionally mature enough to separate their own emotion from others.
It is always about the child.
Many carrying that belief into adulthood.
I understood his logic.
The beginning of my journey dedicating to getting to know my ego.
To comprehend why I react, the way I do.
The more I quieted my mind.
The louder the voice in my head became.
Eventually discovering.
Everything is not about me.
I got a new tattoo recently.
This latest one I gave some thought about for years.
I was bursting with joy and immediately phoning two my close friends after the appointment.
The first phone call went well.
My friend listened and shared in my joy.
The second phone call turned into a conversation that friend’s excuses and own fears; that hinder them from following thru with a tattoo of their own.
There was an obvious difference between those two phone calls.
The first friend enjoyed being a witness to my joy.
The second friend make my tattoo experience all about them.
The second friend response to my story was ego driven. Their ego didn’t want to witness the joy of someone else achieving something they have not.
We all do add our lives to different situations.
Conversations start over similar experiences.
The difference being knowing how to separate the emotion.
Being able to listen to experiences without comparison to your own.
When I catch my mind comparing a new situation to a past experience while engaging with someone; my tactic is saying’ ‘it is not all about me’.
To remind myself to be present in a new situation.
To stop rumming around my mind for a response and just listen.
Look at things with fresh eyes.
Knowledge is often found in another’s perspective.
Bonus!!!
Mastering the ego allows the belief that you don’t know everything.
Life feels so much lighter when you don’t feel the need to be right.
Listening and being a witness to others happiness is so refreshing.
It is my wish for all of us to many opportunities to experience that feeling.
Thank you for letting me share.
Be kind. Be well. Smile.
